21 Ways to Have Fun With Your Husband + A Challenge – Healthy Marriage Tip of the Week

Young couple riding on the tandem bicycle

Young couple riding on the tandem bicycle

The news about marriage hasn’t been very good lately, has it? From a married celebrity pastor to a married reality TV star to the Ashley Madison debacle, it’s been a couple of grim weeks for those of us who value marriage and want to keep it strong. I’m not going to dwell on the bad news, but it’s hard not to think about it. So I’m just going to remind both of us to do everything we can to keep our marriages strong and healthy. And I’m going to share a simple way to do just that.

In fact, this idea is so simple, it almost seems too obvious to mention. But I will anyway, because I have a feeling that most couples aren’t doing it. So here it is – On a regular basis, have fun with your husband. Does it seem ridiculous to write about having fun in your marriage? Maybe, but you know how life tends to get in the way of having fun? And how all of those things you have to do can suck all the enjoyment out of life? And how a marriage that once seemed fun and exciting now just seems kind of boring?

Yeah, I know those feelings. I think everyone who’s been married more than a year knows them. And that’s why I think it’s worth mentioning that doing something fun with your husband regularly can serve as an antidote to those feelings. It’s not an answer to all of the problems our marriages will face, but the connections we build by having fun together can help us deal with those problems more creatively.

So what does it mean to have fun together as a married couple? I think it means taking some time out of your busy schedule, breaking away from the routine, and enjoying each other’s company. It means making some memories together. Most times it can be something simple, although once in a while you may want to do something more elaborate. The key elements are stepping away from your routine and spending time together doing something you both enjoy.

This should be easy, so why does it seem so hard? I think it’s because we’re too busy, and our busyness is keeping us from making time for fun and relaxation with our husbands. So this month I want to challenge you (and me) to do something fun with your husband at least once a week. Plan it, make it a priority, and do it. That’s it – just once a week, for the month of September. Are you in?

If you are, here are 21 ideas to help you get started:

  • Take a bike ride
  • Go canoeing
  • Watch a movie
  • Dance
  • Play a game
  • Visit an amusement park or a zoo
  • Work out together
  • Go out to dinner
  • Have a fight with Nerf or water guns
  • Work on a project together
  • Take a walk
  • Go out for coffee or ice cream
  • Go bowling
  • Go to a concert
  • Wrestle
  • Make love
  • Take a day trip
  • Go to a fair or carnival
  • Try a new sport
  • Play miniature golf
  • Turn a routine task into a game

If you’re going to give it a try, let me know. I’d love to hear what you and your husband do to have fun each week, and I’ll let you know what my husband and I do.





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