Summer is officially here, and it’s time to have some fun. I’m looking forward to taking things easier and enjoying life a bit more this summer, and I hope you are too. I really believe that summer is the perfect time to let go of some of the responsibilities that keep us scrambling from September to May, and to embrace and focus on really enjoying our lives. And that includes enjoying our spouses.
This summer, I’m challenging myself to enjoy spending time with my husband. I want to figure out some fun, healthy and sexy things to do with him, and then actually do them! And I want to take some time just to enjoy his company – to go out for a leisurely breakfast, drink a glass of wine together on the deck, take a nap and make love on a Sunday afternoon. You know, the kind of things that are almost impossible to do when kids, jobs, volunteer work, committee meetings, and church activities are sucking up most of your time and energy!
So I’m making a list of ideas, dialing back my “get things done” approach, and adding a bit more “have some fun” to my life. Here are 29 ideas I’ve come up with so far:
Set the Stage
- Make some space in your life. In order to add fun, healthy and sexy things to your summer, you’ll need to let go of some things that aren’t fun, healthy or sexy. Think about the activities that take up lots of your time and energy and decide to let go of one or more of them during the summer, in order to make some space in your life for having fun with your husband. (And be warned – you may need to let go of some of your children’s activities in order to make this happen.)
- Talk about it. Figure out what having fun together means to you, and tell your husband. Then ask what it means to him, and really listen to what he says. Then talk about ways to make a more enjoyable summer happen for both of you.
- Arrange with friends or family members to trade child care. If you have young children, it’s hard to find time to relax and unwind with your spouse. So make arrangements now to swap child care with other couples who also need some time to relax and unwind together.
- Unwind together in the evenings. During the school year, most evenings require a “divide and conquer approach” in order to get everything done. But the lack of homework, school projects, and school activities in the summer reduces the demands on the family’s time. So make a conscious effort to slow down and unwind together two or three evenings a week. Sit outside and talk, have a glass of wine, take a walk – whatever helps both of you feel relaxed and connected.
- Go to a movie without the kids. Pick a movie you’ll both enjoy, and make an evening of it. Or, to save money, send the kids to a friends house and watch a movie together at home.
- Go swimming together without the kids.
- Go out for a leisurely meal. Dinner is always nice, but going out for breakfast is fun too and costs less. My husband and I went out for breakfast last Saturday, something we never do, then went to an estate sale to look around. It was simple and inexpensive, but a fun break from our normal work-hard-all-day Saturday routine.
- Go out for coffee or ice cream.
- Turn off the TV or computer. Decide to spend less time looking at screens and more time interacting with each other. Use that time to work on a project together. Or just lounge around together reading books.
- Take a picnic to a nearby park.
- Act like tourists in your own town or area. Visit a local tourist attraction that you’ve always wanted to visit, or take a tour and pretend to be out-of-town visitors.
- Get out of your comfort zone. Do something that’s a little bit different or a bit more daring for you.
- Take a hike. Walk the trails at a nearby park or nature preserve.
- Go dancing or take dance lessons.
- Go for a bike ride. Ride around the neighborhood in the evening, or load up the bikes and head to a nearby trail.
- Go kayaking or canoeing. If you don’t have your own gear, look for a guided trip that includes everything you need. (Money-saving tip: Sign up to receive notices about healthy living and outdoor activities from Groupon and Living Social. You can find great deals on fun activities such as canoe trips, bike rentals, or admission to parks.)
- Do a zipline adventure. (Look for a coupon deal.)
- Play Ultimate Frisbee at a local park. Or just toss around a regular Frisbee.
- Tackle the climbing wall at a gym or park.
- Go to the gym together.
- Take a nap together. And go to bed in time to get at least 7 hours of sleep.
- Find some summer clothes that make you feel good. Pull out clothes, sandals, jewelry, and accessories that help you feel comfortable in your own skin and wear them often. If you don’t have anything, buy a few things that make you feel good. They don’t have to be expensive.
- Wear less clothing/lighter clothing to bed. Find some sleepwear that helps you feel comfortable and sexy, and ditch any that makes you feel frumpy.
- Use candles, scents and essential oils to create a sensual mood. Or listen to sexy music regularly.
- Touch each other more often. Engage in some mild public displays of affection. Hold hands. Touch regularly. Sit close. Kiss often. Kiss passionately.
- Take care of your body. It’s hard to feel sexy when you feel unhappy with your body. So if you feel that way (and, really, what woman doesn’t?!), spend time this summer taking care of it and learning to feel good about it.
- Go to bed earlier and make love. Turn off the distractions in time to relax, unwind and connect with your husband.
- Put a bit of extra energy into your sex life. Focus on your sexy side. Take a proactive approach to sex and intimacy, and figure out what feels good to you. Try something new or a something a bit outside your comfort zone. Initiate sex. Have fun.
- Get away together. If at all possible, get away together sometime this summer, even if it’s only for one night (but preferably two or three). Taking a break from “real life” and focusing on each other and your marriage can lift your marriage out of the doldrums and take it to new heights.
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Obviously, these are just a few of the hundreds of fun, healthy and sexy things you can do with your husband this summer. What are your plans and ideas? Please share them in the Comments – I would love to hear from you.