This month we’ve been talking about taking small steps that add up to big changes over time, changes that will allow us to live well and to really enjoy our lives this year. I’ve shared some ideas for living calmer, healthier and sexier, and many of you have shared a small step you plan to take or some of the challenges you face when it comes to making changes.
If you’ve made a plan and are beginning to take small steps – wonderful! If not, now’s the perfect time to get started. I like to think of January as the month for evaluating and making plans and February as the month for launching them. So, it’s launch time! If you haven’t quite decided where to begin or identified the first step you want to take, here are a couple of ideas that may help:
- Not sure where to begin? Most of us want to live calmer, healthier AND sexier lives, and sometimes we can’t decide where to begin. The whole idea of change can become overwhelming, and we end up doing nothing. If that’s how you’re feeling, take some time to identify the one thing that’s bothering you the most. Is it your hectic schedule, disorganized house, weight, limited (or no!) exercise, lack of connection with your husband, or lack of meaningful family time? It can be anything that robs you of the joy of a calm, healthy and sexy life. The #1 thing is different for every woman, so only you can decide what it is for you.
- Pick your first small step. Now that you know your #1 thing, pick a first step that will allow you to begin changing it. Don’t try to do it all at once – pick one realistic change you can begin to make. For example, if your family’s hectic schedule is the thing you really want to change, be aware you won’t be able to revamp it overnight. (Or, if you do, you may have a mutiny on your hands!) Or if you want to lose a significant amount of weight, that can’t happen overnight either. But you can begin making changes now that will allow those things to happen over time. So pick one thing you know you can change (although it may not be easy) and make it your first step.
- Work your first step until it becomes a permanent change. It may take a while. That’s fine – you’re making a positive change. It might take a few weeks, or a few months. It really doesn’t matter. Eventually, after the first step becomes a part of your life, pick another, then another, until you’ve addressed the issue in a way that allows you to live with more joy.
Here’s what this process is looking like for me. The thing I want to change first this year is to get in better shape and lose 6-8 pounds (not a lot, but I’ve been trying to lose those pounds for several years). Making this change is going to require starting a regular strength training program, but I’ve been avoiding it because I dislike strength training so much! I love aerobic exercise, but would be happy never to see another hand weight again! But, the reality is that we all lose muscle as we age, which makes it harder to lose weight and look toned. Getting in shape and losing the weight will probably require several changes, but I’m only making one change right now – start a strength training program 3 days a week and stick with it until I see results! I’ve picked a program, collected the hand weights (they were collecting dust in various areas of the house!), and have been “test driving” it for a few weeks. This week I got serious about it, and am going to keep going until it becomes part of my routine.
What about you? Do you have a plan for making some changes that will allow you to live a calmer, healthier or sexier life this year? Have you identified the first step you’re going to take? Please share your plan, first step or strategies for staying on track in the Comments – I would love to hear from you. Also, if you don’t yet follow CalmHealthySexy by email, I would love for you to subscribe (enter your email address in the sidebar under Subscribe to Blog Via Email). You’ll receive an email whenever I publish a new post. Thanks. Gaye
I Think You’ll Like This Too…
- How to Get the Perfect Body by Lisa at Snack Girl – this fits nicely with one of my favorite topics – real beauty vs. “created” beauty
- The Word by Lori at The Generous Wife – a short, simple reminder of the value of reading God’s Word regularly
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Photo credit – Darren Baker – Fotolia
alexiskrystina says
I love this. It’s easy to get so overwhelmed by all the goals we have, and then we end up doing none. It’s all about the baby steps. One thing at a time. Thanks for the reminder! 😉 And thanks for linking up at Countdown in Style 🙂
GC says
Thanks Alexis. I have to remind myself frequently that it’s all about the baby steps!
Gaye
April (@100LBC) says
Great advice! Probably because I just gave the same advice! LOL! I couldn’t agree with you more. Small steps will let you find victories, and the victories make you feel better about yourself to keep going! Thanks for stopping by Countdown in Style. Please stop by on Friday to see if you’re featured.
Brittnei Washington says
These are some really great realistic points. For me, I really want a natural birth so I want to focus on staying on top of exercising a few days out of the week. I started a Fit Pregnancy Series at my blog to keep my accountable too 🙂 Thanks for sharing this with us at Countdown in Style! Don’t forget to stop by to see if you are featured! xo
Kelly's Reality says
I’ve committed to eating healthy and clean like 80% of the time and keeping up with my 3x a week barre classes. Loving the results, energy and health I am feeling 🙂
homeschoolconnectionsblog says
Thanks for linking at Family Fun Friday – I always love reading your stuff!
Monica
GC says
Thanks so much, Monica!
Gaye
Jenny says
This year my goal is to live in the moment and cultivate an attitude of contentment. I’m working on that by making a point each day to pause and find something to be grateful for. Thank you for sharing this encouraging post with us on the HomeAcre Hop! We’d love to have you back again tomorrow.
GC says
Thanks so much, Jenny. That is a wonderful goal for the year.
Gaye
Your Doctor's Wife says
Battling those last 5-10 is a killer!! I’ve been (inactively) working on those for the past 5 years! UGH!!
GC says
Yeah, I’m working on them this winter. I’ll let you know if I find something that works!
Gaye
jugglingrealfoodandreallife says
I think I have finally decided that I want to gain more control of my chaos and I need my kids to help. I have been so busy doing everything for them and that has to come to an end. I am starting with adding simple routines and chores for them to do. I also need to get control of my laundry room. It’s a running joke in my house that my other full-time job is doing laundry. Somehow……..it has gotten out of control. I feel rather less than calm when I need to search for this or that article of clothing in a panic.
GC says
I’m applauding you, Christina. This is a great decision and it will pay off big time, although implementing it (especially the kids’ part) will probably be hard. I have come to the conclusion too that I do not have to do everything and be everything for everyone. When I try to do that, my sanity and my marriage suffer.
Gaye
Jane says
Great reminder that I should just start something! Thanks for linking up this post with MM.
GC says
Thanks Jane! I love linking up with MM. I missed it in December, because my mother was quite ill.
Gaye
DeDivahDeals says
Thank you for linking up and sharing at the #WWDParty this week!
nmburk says
I know saying “lose weight” is to vague, even though it’s a huge necessity. So I decided that my goal this year would be choosing a word: Purposeful. So I’m being purposeful in what I eat by working on writing everything down that I eat (no matter how bad) and also increasing my water intake. That should result in weight loss as a side benefit! 🙂 Thanks for linking up to Let’s Get Real!
GC says
Hi Nicole – I love the idea of choosing and word and using it to help you achieve your goals!
Gaye
cassi9879b says
I’m hoping to reach my goal weight this year, continuing what I did last year until I plateau.
GC says
Hi Cassie – Good luck with reaching your goal. It sounds like you have a plan that is working for you.
Gaye
Antionette Blake says
I need to lose weight and it’s frustrating…but that bread and wine keeps calling my name!!!
GC says
LOL! Bread and wine – that’s Biblical! They should be good for you!
Gaye
DeDivahDeals says
Oh wow….I didn’t even realize that – God knows my heart!
Lori says
I’m lovin’ your Small Steps, Big Changes series (and thanks so much for the link).
GC says
Thank you, Lori! I’m so glad you like it.
Gaye