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You are Beautiful! 5 Ways to Feel Confident and Look Great

September 29, 201521 Comments

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Feel Confident and Look Great 1Hollywood and the media lie to us quite often, and one of their biggest lies revolves around this theme – only very young and stunningly beautiful women are attractive, confident and sexy. This is completely false, but how often do you believe it?

Sadly, I believe it quite often – and you probably do too. Because the flawless images of women we see in movies, on television and in advertising reinforce that lie, over and over again.

The problem is, those images are fake – they’ve been manipulated to create “perfect” women who don’t really exist. Of course, a few women are born with stunning natural beauty and will always look good, with or without makeup and airbrushing. But most are not.

Don’t believe me? Check out these photos of Heidi Klum without makeup and airbrushing. Yes, she is still a beautiful woman, but she doesn’t look at all like the woman we see in magazines and on television.

As a matter of fact, she looks kind of normal. Which tells me that most of the pictures we see of her (and of other models and actresses) are works of fiction, not reality. 

The good news for those of us who can’t rely on personal makeup artists, stylists and photographers is this – all women can be attractive, confident and sexy. If you’re not feeling any of those things, try these five strategies for looking and feeling great:

1. Show off your assets.  No, I’m not suggesting you start wearing low-cut tops or super-short skirts! But I am suggesting that you accentuate and play up your best features.

Do you have beautiful eyes? Wear eye makeup that makes them stand out. Pretty hair? Maximize it with a good cut/color and a bit of attention every morning. A nice figure? Wear clothes that flatter it. Toned arms? Wear tops that show them off.

You get the idea. And, of course, reflect your inner beauty by treating people well, showing an interest in them, and expressing your needs and opinions in ways that value them. That, more than any makeup, clothing or jewelry, creates an attractive image in the minds of the people you interact with every day.

2. Live confidently.  One of the most attractive things a woman can put on is confidence. Think about the most attractive people you know, women and men. Some of them are not particularly beautiful or handsome, but it doesn’t matter – because they’re confident. What if you don’t feel confident? Then fake it until you start to feel it – stand up straight, walk confidently, look people in the eye and smile, speak to people everywhere you go, take on a challenge, share your thoughts and opinions, and take small steps to look good every day.

3. Control your time.  Is 100% of your time booked with work, child care, housework, kids’ activities, social activities, volunteer work and other “stuff?” If so, you’re going to find it difficult to do the things that help you feel confident and attractive – things like taking care of your appearance, exercising regularly, eating well, pursuing a goal or dream, and live confidently.

Doing those things requires a little bit of time each day, which you don’t have if you’re running yourself ragged. Clearly, other people want and need a lot of your time, but you need some of it too. It isn’t selfish to do things that help you feel attractive and confident – it’s smart. So look at your schedule and find things you may need to prioritize differently.

For example, do you really need to serve on two committees at your children’s school and two at your church or synagogue? Do your children really need to play on five sports teams at the same time? Do they need to take dance, music and gymnastics? Have you made community commitments that are too time-consuming at this stage in your life? If necessary, make some tough decisions that will free up some time and allow you to take good care of yourself.

4. Get up and move. Regular exercise is probably the best thing a woman can do for her body, mind and spirit. Exercise helps you look better and feel better.  It burns calories, tones muscles, increases your energy level, reduces your stress and gives your skin a beautiful glow. You don’t have to sign up for a gym or class – walking briskly, jogging, biking, playing outside with your kids, and working out with a DVD are great forms of exercise. Using light weights 2 or 3 times a week tones your muscles, and stretching exercises keep you limber.

Think you don’t have time? The Physical Activity Guidelines for Americans recommend 30 minutes of physical activity on most days of the week – you can even break it up into two shorter sessions. So look at your schedule and figure out a way to fit it in – walk while your kids practice soccer, walk during your lunch hour or after dinner with your husband, ride bikes as a family, do a workout while you watch TV, or get up 15 minutes earlier to exercise. Try it for two weeks and see how you feel – I predict you’ll feel great!

5. Eat well. If you want to feel good about your body, feed it well. A diet that’s heavy on fast food, restaurant food and processed food drags your body down, so that it doesn’t look or feel its best. Conversely, a diet that’s high in fruits, vegetables, whole grains, nuts, lean meat and dairy helps your body look and feel great. It also promotes weight loss and helps you reach or maintain a healthy weight.

If eating healthy foods is new for you, start with small changes – eat two fruits or vegetables with every meal; replace processed snacks with fruit, cheese, nuts, or popcorn; pack a healthy lunch rather than eating fast food; or decrease the number of soft drinks in your diet. These are just a few of the many positive changes you can make; for more tips on eating well, check out our Healthy Eating 101 series.

I hope these tips help you as you strive to bring out the attractive, confident woman who lives inside you. I’d love to hear about your strategies for making these kinds of changes, your ideas for making time to take could care of yourself, or the struggles you face when it comes to feeling attractive and confident.

 

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  1. Carrie Ingles Groneman says

    September 30, 2015 at 10:13 pm

    Gaye, you are a fabulous example and teacher! THANK YOU for another fabulous post on how to appreciate what we have and are. We truly cannot become better, until we work with what we have and do the best with it we can and not compare, but love what we see. You bring this out so well, and your message(s) are so needed. Carrie, A Mother’s Shadow

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    • GC says

      October 1, 2015 at 7:37 pm

      Thank you so much, Carrie. I really appreciate your kind words and encouragement.

      Gaye

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  2. BetsyPool says

    April 9, 2013 at 12:00 pm

    Thanks so much for sharing this!!

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    • GC says

      April 10, 2013 at 12:02 pm

      Thanks Betsy.

      gaye

      Reply
  3. Katherines Corner says

    April 6, 2013 at 11:00 pm

    Wonderful post!!!! Thank you for sharing at the hop, your participation makes the hop extra special. Big Hugs P.S. the new giveaway posted yesterday!

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  4. dishofdailylife says

    April 5, 2013 at 8:01 am

    These are great words of wisdom that we need to share with our daughters! Wonderful post!

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    • GC says

      April 5, 2013 at 5:32 pm

      Thanks so much for stopping by. I agree – these are things that girls and young women need to hear from us.

      Gaye

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  5. prowessandpearls says

    April 5, 2013 at 7:57 am

    Hi Gaye!!I so agree with you! I turn 45 next month and I’ve never felt more confident than I do now!! Life is definitely great for me right now! Thanks for sharing and thanks for dropping by and linking up…have a wonderful weekend lady!!

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    • GC says

      April 5, 2013 at 5:33 pm

      Thanks Michell! I am older than you – lol! – and I feel great too.

      Gaye

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  6. All My Happy Endings says

    April 4, 2013 at 1:38 pm

    Hi there! I have ventured over from Linkin’ With My Ladies. I am co-hosting this month and I just wanted to thank you for participating! Love your blog! XOXO, Mandi @ All My Happy Endings

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    • GC says

      April 5, 2013 at 5:34 pm

      Thanks Mandi. I am following you.

      Gaye

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  7. prayernotesbycynthia says

    April 3, 2013 at 8:07 pm

    Wonderful boost of encouragement! Love it!

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    • GC says

      April 3, 2013 at 8:58 pm

      Thank you, Cynthia!

      Gaye

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  8. Adam's Eve says

    April 3, 2013 at 5:53 pm

    I love the abundance of ideas you give here about feeling good about yourself and taking care of your body. I’m starting to incorporate more fruits/veggies in my diet, and I’m challenging myself to get up and get moving. I love the idea of showing off your assets. That’s totally something that a lot of women overlook and it doesn’t have to be elaborate, expensive, or raunchy. Thanks for your ideas, Gaye.

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    • GC says

      April 3, 2013 at 8:56 pm

      Thanks so much, Hannah! I like the idea of showing off your assets in a tasteful way too. Sometimes we just bury ourselves in sweats and ponytails – no wonder we don’t feel attractive!

      Gaye

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  9. messymarriage says

    April 3, 2013 at 5:16 pm

    It’s easy to get down on ourselves as women but not do anything positive to improve the way we look and feel. These suggestions are that road map we need to get back on track. I’m especially in need of the “eating well” reminder. I’ve let the busyness and stress of my life take precedence over good eating habits lately. This is the gentle reminder I needed to get back in gear. Thanks so much for your practical guidelines, Gaye! It’s another home-run for our Wedded Wed linkup!

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    • GC says

      April 3, 2013 at 8:58 pm

      Thanks so much, Beth. It is really hard to keep everything on track. Right now I’m doing well with healthy eating and exercise, but my house is a total wreck! Unfortunately, the things we need to do to take care of ourselves take time.

      Gaye

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  10. MomRunsHalf-Dana says

    March 28, 2013 at 8:31 pm

    Great ideas and some are easy, we just forget to focus on the positive points sometimes and only point out the negative.

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