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5 Ways “Hotel Sex” Can Improve Your Marriage

July 21, 201528 Comments

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Once in a while, you need to get away from home and enjoy some time alone with your husband - in part because hotel sex can be great for women! Here are 5 ways that getting away can give you and your marriage a boost. #calmhealthysexy #marriage #marriedlife #lovelife Has the sex in your marriage gotten a bit dull? Or is your schedule so busy that it just isn’t happening very often? Do you feel disconnected from your husband and want to reignite your intimacy and connection?  Or is everything going smoothly, but the two of you just want to have some fun together? In all of those cases, I have two words for you – hotel sex!

OK, so, what exactly is “hotel sex?” Clearly, it includes having sex in a hotel or motel! But, I like to stretch the definition a bit and include making love in any place that provides lots of privacy with little or no responsibility. So it could include sex in a cabin, cottage or inn – but not sex at your in-laws’ house! Basically, it’s the kind of sex that allows you and your husband to break away from your normal surroundings and responsibilities and jump start the passion in your marriage.

I know that getting away, even for one night, often requires extensive planning. And if you’re the mom of a busy family, it may feel like it requires more energy than you’re willing to give. But trust me, it truly is worth the effort!  When our children were younger and I was exhausted all the time, I made a lot of mistakes when it came to our sex life. I didn’t always give it the time and attention it deserved, and my husband and I didn’t communicate well about sex and intimacy. But we did do one thing right – we made time for “hotel sex,” making sure to get away by ourselves at least once and often twice a year. And that commitment to investing in our marriage helped it stay it strong and paved the way for us to strengthen sex and intimacy over the years.

Whatever stage of life and marriage you’re in, you probably need some “hotel sex.” Here are five ways it can improve your marriage:

1. It allows you to relax in a way many women can’t at home.

Most wives and moms are always “on” at home – something or someone always requires their attention. Even when the kids are in bed, we find it hard to relax while looking at an empty refrigerator or piles of dirty clothes! In a hotel, however, you aren’t responsible for anything! Nobody is calling “Mom, Mom, Mooommm!” every five minutes, you don’t have to make the bed, heck – you don’t even have to hang up the towels! Because most women need to be relaxed in order to enjoy sex, getting away from our responsibilities once in a while can provide just the relaxing boost you need!

2. It allows you to release some inhibitions.

Once you’re relaxed, it’s easier to let go of inhibitions. In a hotel or motel, no one is going to hear hear you or see you. No one will walk through the door at an inopportune moment. No one knows you. So it’s easier to relax and let go of some of the things that worry you about sex at home.

3. It gives you a chance to try something new.

In a hotel, you can wear the racy lingerie you don’t wear at home. Or sexy high heels. Or nothing. You can try a new position. You can take a bath together or have sex in the shower. You can make love in the middle of the afternoon or first thing in the morning. You can try a sex toy or a flavored lubricant. Anything you’ve been hesitant to try at home, you can try it first in a hotel!Sexy married couple enjoying romance

4. It says to your husband and yourself, “I value this part of our marriage.”

Taking the time to spend a weekend, or even just one night, in a hotel lets your husband know you value sex and intimacy with him. And it reminds you that you’re a sexual person and sex is for you too. It’s a way of reminding both of you that you’re more than mom, dad, provider, cook, coach and driver. You’re also each other’s lover.

5. It builds intimacy and connection that strengthens your marriage.

Sex is critical to marriage – you really can’t create a strong marriage without it. It’s a big component of the glue that holds the two of you together – without it, you’re basically just roommates. Enjoying hotel sex once or twice a year certainly isn’t all your marriage needs, but it can reignite or just strengthen that part of your marriage.

Want to give it a try? Then plan a night or a weekend away in the near future. Two nights are better than one, because you have more time to relax. You can make it a full-fledged getaway, or just head to a hotel in a nearby town or city. Don’t go too far, because it’s about spending time together, not traveling.

What do you think? Is it worth the effort? Please share your thoughts in the Comments – I would love to hear from you.

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Once in a while, you need to get away from home and enjoy some time alone with your husband - in part because hotel sex can be great for women! Here are 5 ways that getting away can give you and your marriage a boost. #calmhealthysexy #marriage #marriedlife #lovelife

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  1. Renee says

    April 26, 2018 at 6:01 pm

    This is something I have truly desired for my husband and I. Financially, it just isn’t possible to get away for a night or two. My husband feels bad for not being able to provide what I’d like, and I feel frustrated that we can’t afford it. We both work hard, but it just isn’t feasible during this season.

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    • GC says

      April 27, 2018 at 5:30 pm

      Hi Renee – I know that’s frustrating. There are definitely times in life when you just can’t do some of the things you’d really like to do. I hope that you and your husband can figure out a way to get away by yourselves for a short time.

      Gaye

      Reply
  2. Kristin Avril says

    February 22, 2017 at 12:41 am

    What a great idea! I’m always reading marriage blogs and the advice gets so repetitive after a while, but this is different and helpful! Thank you!

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    • GC says

      February 22, 2017 at 9:28 pm

      Thanks so much, Kristin. I really appreciate it.

      Gaye

      Reply
  3. B says

    March 28, 2016 at 12:00 pm

    This is a great idea. I wish we could do this. We tried a couple years ago and it was nice. I would love to do it again, even for just one night. Sadly, his work gets in the way. He never has enough time to make it happen, and if we get one night where he can get away, it always seems to coincide with an activity the kids are involved in. We don’t have a support system, so home I sit! Oh well, I just keep hoping, someday…

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    • GC says

      March 31, 2016 at 12:55 pm

      Hi B – I do hope you and your husband can figure out a way to get away together. It is definitely hard when your kids are young, but is almost always worth the effort.

      Thanks so much for stopping by.
      Gaye

      Reply
  4. James Witter says

    August 7, 2015 at 4:35 pm

    Could not agree with you more on this about having hotel sex. We try to get away for something like this about 2-3 times a year…. We were just away at a secluded cabin for 3 nights 2 days and had an awesome time…. we are also going to a marriage retreat at a motel Oct. 9-11… cca not wait till then

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    • GC says

      August 8, 2015 at 8:55 am

      Hi James – It’s so great to get away together, isn’t it? I think it can make a world of difference in a marriage.

      Thanks so much for stopping by.
      Gaye

      Reply
  5. Keelie Reason says

    August 2, 2015 at 7:02 pm

    I think that hotel sex is so hot. I love it!

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    • GC says

      August 4, 2015 at 3:57 pm

      Hi Keelie – I couldn’t agree more!

      Thanks so much for stopping by.
      Gaye

      Reply
  6. Keli says

    August 1, 2015 at 12:11 pm

    It is our anniversary and we are getting the chance to get away for 3 or 4 nights and we are so needing that. No big plans but no kids!!! We do try to go at least once but really like to go twice in the year. Definitely a must for us wives/mothers to get away from the house. Sure helps relax so must better. Thanks for the ideas!

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    • GC says

      August 4, 2015 at 3:58 pm

      Hi Keli – Oh, 3 or 4 nights away will be wonderful! I hope you have a wonderful time.

      Gaye

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  7. Lori says

    July 28, 2015 at 12:08 pm

    We’ve been traveling for a year, living in our fifth wheel, and have found it to be an amazing “honeymoon” for the intimate side of our marriage. (We are married 31 years, but it feels fresh and new again)

    We’d recommend a little two-some jaunt in a camper (WITH a bathroom-that’s a caveat) to try all your ideas.

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  8. Hilda says

    July 23, 2015 at 9:31 am

    i agree with this. but after 37 years of marriage, empty nesters but now with a 4 legged child, it’s just as bad! it takes a lot after we women start going through the “OTHER” damning stage of life.

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    • GC says

      July 25, 2015 at 10:09 am

      Hi Hilda – Yes, a 4-legged child can complicate get-away plans too. We have one of those, plus 6 chickens – lol!

      Gaye

      Reply
  9. iamstevenboltStevenBolt says

    July 22, 2015 at 6:20 pm

    Absolutely worth the effort. We recently stayed a night in a hotel at the end of our street to catch up after we had been separated by our work for a week.

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    • GC says

      July 22, 2015 at 9:18 pm

      Hi Steven – I love it! Even if you only go as far as the end of the street, it is definitely worth it.

      Thanks.
      Gaye

      Reply
  10. howsyourlovelife says

    July 22, 2015 at 12:31 pm

    I completely agree! Our church is having a couples retreat at a hotel next month and part of the marketing is this idea!

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    • GC says

      July 22, 2015 at 9:22 pm

      Thanks Jennifer. I hope the weekend is great for all of the couples involved.

      Gaye

      Reply
  11. Joy says

    July 21, 2015 at 9:25 pm

    My husband and I have been trying to get away for a hotel sex weekend at least once per year and aim for 2-3 times/year. We’ve only been making a concerted effort for the past 3 or 4 years to do this and we really look forward to these married trysts . . . wish we had started this sooner . It’s something I will recommend to my kids when they are married. I recommend it to other married couples now.

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    • GC says

      July 22, 2015 at 9:23 pm

      Hi Joy – Two or three times a year is great! I don’t think we ever did better than two, but any time you can devote to getting away together is well worth the effort.

      Thanks.
      Gaye

      Reply

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