Manage Your Family’s Schedule – 5 Steps to at the Beginning of the School Year

Hectic Family 1If you’re striving to live a reasonably calm, healthy and sexy life, you may find yourself in frequent conflict with your family’s schedule – the jobs, responsibilities, chores, relationships and activities that make up your family’s day-to-day life.  For many families, the number of tasks on that schedule has become overwhelming.  Mom and Dad work hard (at work and at home), Dad serves on a church committee and volunteers in the community, Mom chairs the PTO and coaches a soccer team, John plays baseball and football, Anna plays soccer and takes dance and piano, and little Kristen just started gymnasticx.  Whew!  Add in cooking, shopping, cleaning, maintaining the yard, helping with homework, and spending time with friends and family, and it becomes almost impossible for a family to live simply and feel relaxed.

Families in the 21st century can choose from thousands of activities, opportunities, and entertainment options, more than any previous generation of families.  But is this smorgasbord of choices a blessing or a curse?  Certainly the opportunity to play an instrument, compete in a sport, volunteer, travel, and enjoy entertainment can be a blessing.  But if it comes at the expense of family time, relaxation, relationships, good health, and marital intimacy, it can easily turn into a curse.

The ideal schedule will differ from family to family, year to year, maybe even season to season.  The real issue isn’t the specific schedule you adopt, it’s that you and your husband choose your family’s activities and manage your family’s schedule – rather than allowing it to manage you.  It can be done, although it isn’t easy. So if you’re feeling tired, stressed, and overcommitted and are longing for a bit more sanity, put these five strategies in place before the new school year begins (and things really get crazy!):

  1.  Analyze the situation.  What is causing you the most stress?  Which activities are required and which are optional?  (Really think hard about this – some activities that you are treating as required may in fact be optional.)  Which activities provide little “bang for the buck” (not much value, but a lot of hassle)?  In the ideal scheduling situation, which activities would you drop and which ones would you keep?
  2. Ask yourself why the situation is occurring.  Why are you running from one activity to another, with no time to think, slow down, or take a deep breath?  Is it just that you’ve allowed the schedule to get out of control, without really thinking about it?  Are you afraid that your children will miss out on something if they don’t participate in every activity?  Is it because you don’t know how to say no?  Do you feel pressure to do what everyone else is doing?  Do you feel a need to be busy all the time?  Some of these are hard questions, but you may need to answer them before you can figure out a way to control your family’s schedule.
  3.  Identify the things you would like to do, but can’t.  What is your family’s schedule preventing you from doing or enjoying?  Do you want to exercise and get in shape, but never have enough time?  Do you want to cook healthy meals and eat dinner together as a family, but find yourself picking up fast food almost every night?  Would you like to take a weekend to play together as a family, maybe hiking or biking, building a campfire, or playing games?  Would you like to relax and enjoy some intimacy with your spouseMake a list of the things you’d like to do, if only your schedule weren’t so hectic.
  4. Talk with your husband and enlist his help.  Controlling the family’s schedule is a big job, and both parents need to be on board in order for it to work.  Does your husband feel stressed too?  Would he like to do something different, if only there was enough time?  Is he feeling the need for some down time?  Talk it through and agree on a goal. My husband really took the lead in managing our family’s schedule when our children were younger.  He just wasn’t into that whole “running somewhere every minute of every day” thing!  He wanted to have a sane family life and a sane marriage, and he wasn’t worried that our kids might miss out on that one great activity that would change their lives forever!  So, even though our schedule was busy when our boys were in elementary and middle school, it wasn’t completely insane.  Maybe you need to take the lead on this initially, but you may find that your husband is more than happy to get involved.
  5. Eliminate some activities.  This is the hard part.  If you want to take control of your family’s schedule, open up some time for relaxation, and live at a slightly slower pace, you can’t continue to do everything you’re currently doing.  Unless you have the resources to hire a maid, a gardener, and a driver, you’re going to have to let some things go.  What is most important thing at this stage in your life If the children’s sports activities are most important, then let other children’s activities go.  If scouting is most important, then focus on that – but music or sports may have to go.  If having a parent serve on PTO is important, then that parent probably can’t serve as a community volunteer or president of his or her civic group.

Have you been able to keep your family’s schedule under control, or is it running you ragged?  If you’ve been able to tame it (at least in part), what strategies have worked for you? Please share your strategies in the Comments – I would love to hear from you.

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  1. cassi9879 says

    Too late for son’s been back since July 29th. But it’s a lot of great ideas for those who start later!

    • GC says

      Hi Cassi – Gosh, that seems early! Maybe I should have said “…At the Beginning of the School Year!”


  2. says

    Love this! Great advice to newly weds like us :) It gives me an idea how to deal and control family schedules in the future :)

    Visiting you from the Happy Wives Club Link Up.

  3. says

    Love this! There are certain times of the year when our schedule gets totally out of control, but for the most part, it isn’t too bad. #5 is so hard to do. With my older kids, I was always working and they weren’t able to participate in all the activities my younger ones can. I tend to do a little too much, but because of my illness, I’m forced to take it easy.

    Thank you for co-hosting the hop!!

    • GC says

      Thanks Christina. It’s hard to find the right balance of activities, and I think that moms tend to want to do too much, so that their kids can have every opportunity.

      Thanks for the opportunity to co-host the hop.

  4. says

    Prioritizing is huge as well as enlisting the help from your partner. Thankfully hubby is great, well except for the laundry. Great tips. Our son is still too young to be involved in activities but we already started having him have an hour a day of him time and he loves it. He plays with his puzzles and opens a book nicely, phew. Thank you for linking up to the Empowered Living hop, stay tuned I will be making a few changes this coming week. Hope to see you again.

    • GC says

      Thanks Jesse. I love the idea of your son having an hour of “him time” every day – what a great idea and very good training in learning to entertain himself. Thanks for the opportunity to link up with you. I’ll look for your upcoming changes.

      Have a great weekend.

  5. says

    We started getting into that situation with classes and sports, and our kids are still small! Focus helps – have the kids pick one activity and put their all into it, instead of being semi-enthusiastic about several activities.

    • GC says

      Hi Courtney – I agree – we encouraged our kids to focus on one activity at a time. We didn’t always stick with that 100% as they got older, but they never did more than two at a time. It just takes too much time and energy, and leaves little for family time and couple time.

      Thanks so much for stopping by.


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