Healthy Life Toolbox, Tool #10 – Stop Messing Around
How’s it going with the healthy change you’re making this year? Are you making progress? Following your plan? Staying on track? If so, wonderful – keep going.
Or have you gotten stuck? Find that you aren’t moving forward? Don’t know what to do next?
If so, maybe you need to stop messing around. Maybe you need to stop thinking about what you’re going to do and quit waffling. Maybe you need to quit stopping and starting. Maybe you need to quit overthinking it.
In other words – stop messing around. Don’t keep saying that you’re going to do it – do it.
You know that I like to focus on encouragement – encouraging you to take small steps and keep going – and that I generally keeping things positive.
But today I want to give you a tiny dose of tough love – because I need it myself, and I’m guessing you do too.
I know women who have started and stopped their weight loss efforts a hundred times. I know women who’ve been saying for years that they’re going to slow down and get their stress under control. I know women who’ve been talking about turning their hobby into a business for years. I know women who desperately want to write a book.
But they’re not doing it. They plan and think and research. They start and then stop. They start again. They plan some more. They promise themselves that this time will be different.
Are you one of those women? I am, and I’m embarrassed to say it. Even though I “fully committed” to eating clean and getting my body to its healthiest weight this year, in reality I’m putting about 60% effort into it. And I’ve been saying for at least 8 years that I want to write a book, but I’m still thinking about it.
In other words, I’m not doing what I truly want to do. I’m messing around.
What about you? Did you make a commitment to yourself in January, and now find that you’re pursuing it halfheartedly? Or maybe you’ve started and stopped half a dozen times. Or maybe you’re not pursuing it at all.
We could talk about the reasons you and I aren’t doing the thing we really want to do. And sometimes there’s value in understanding your “why.”
But today we’re not going to talk about that. Instead, I’m just going to tell you – and me – to stop messing around and do the thing you know you want to do.
Just. Do. The. Thing. Get on the healthy eating plan and stay on it. Cancel something that wastes 30 minutes of your time and use that time to exercise 5 days a week. Start saying “no” to people and work on reducing your stress level. Go get on Etsy and open the darn shop. Open up Word and start writing the darn book.
In other words, stop messing around. You’re wasting your precious time and energy, driving yourself crazy, and making yourself feel guilty. It’s nuts – and I’m talking to myself here, because I’m doing it too.
So make the commitment now that you’re going to stop messing around and start doing the thing that you really want to do this year.
Do. The. Thing.
What’s your thing, and how are you messing around with it? I’d love to hear from you. Let me know in the comments or email me at gc @ calmhealthysexy.com.
Use the Tool – Today, just decide to stop messing around and go after the thing you said you really wanted to do this year. Then decide the same thing tomorrow and the next day. Make that decision every day this week and see what happens.
I’d love to know what you’re working on this and how this idea works for you. Leave a note in the Comments, or email me at gc @ calmhealthysexy.com
Next, we’ll talk about Tool #11 – Reframe “I Deserve.”
You can find all of the Healthy Life Toolbox posts here.