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Valentine’s Day – Do One Thing

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Love (Two red hearts)Love it or hate it, Valentine’s Day is almost here. In the next two days, do one thing to make the day fun or meaningful (or both!) for your husband.  Whether you look forward to Valentine’s Day or dread it, whether you feel deeply in love with your husband or barely feel like speaking to him, whether you expect to be delighted on February 14 or know you’ll be disappointed, just do one thing that will speak love to him, bring joy to him, or make him laugh. If you already have a plan, great. If not, it’s not too late.

 Sometimes we don’t think about doing something for him, because we expect Valentine’s Day to be all about us. (Guilty.)  Sometimes we’re too tired from the daily grind to make a plan or carry it out. And sometimes we feel like he hasn’t done much for us lately, so why should we do something special for him? I’m not saying those aren’t valid issues. What I am saying is this – just set them slightly to the side and do one thing on Valentine’s Day that shows your husband how much you love and appreciate him.
This list of things you could do extends from here to next week. Your plan doesn’t have to be complicated or cost a lot, and it doesn’t have to be conventional. It just needs to meet his need for love in a way that he can receive and enjoy it. (And it probably should include sex – just sayin’).  Here are just a few ideas:
  • Put the kids to bed early.
  • Make his favorite dessert.
  • Make a special dinner.
  • Bring in pizza and some wine and relax together.
  • Buy some lingerie or unearth some you haven’t worn for a while.
  • Watch one of his favorite movies with him.
  • Buy him a small gift for his hobby.
  • Light candles and play some sexy music.
  • Make him a playlist of his favorite music.
  • Buy him a book you know he’ll enjoy.
  • Write him a note that tells how much you appreciate him.
  • Send him flirty or sexy texts throughout the day.
  • Take a shower together.
  • Give him a back rub.

What’s your plan for Valentine’s Day? What other ideas do you have for wives who still need to make a Valentine’s Day plan that will bring joy to their husbands? Please share your ideas in the Comments – I would love to hear from you. I also would love for you to  subscribe to Calm.Healthy.Sexy. by email. Enter your email address in the sidebar (under Subscribe to Blog Via Email). And please follow Calm.Healthy.Sexy. on Twitter (@CalmHealthySexy), Facebook, or Pinterest. Gaye

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  3. Jess M says

    I love this because I completely agree! A blogger friend and I actually did 14 Days of Valentines for our hubs and just showed them we loved them in specific ways in the 14 days leading up to V-Day. It was a lot of fun and definitely worth making it about him for a change! 🙂
    Pretty Living sent me :)- Glad she did!
    Jess

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    • GC says

      Hi Jess – Oh, I love your 14 days idea! I know your husbands loved it too.

      Thanks so much for stopping by. I appreciate Myranda at Pretty Living sending you over.

      Gaye

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  4. Andrea @Mostly Happenstance says

    Thanks for the ideas! My husband and I are actually celebrating Valentine’s Day today. I made my husband breakfast and then later today we are going to go out to dinner and then see Die Hard 5 🙂 His favorite. By the way Pretty Living PDX sent me!

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  5. Ashley says

    Pretty Living PDX Sent me 🙂
    Thanks for blogging this! We’ve only been married for not even two year yet… and I already see how it’s easy to get caught up in everyday life and miss out on what you two were so excited about when you first talked about planning a life together. Sometimes I just pause myself and try to think of a way to just love on my hubby. And what I see that means the most to him is when I just stop and LISTEN to what’s on his heart at the time.
    Thanks, Gaye!

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    • GC says

      Thank you, Ashley. It’s surprising how easy it is to move away from the excitement of early married life, isn’t it? A good marriage really requires being intentional about your love all the time.

      I appreciate Myranda sending you over to visit.
      Gaye

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    • GC says

      Thanks Shane. I agree – we should be thinking about doing these kinds of things routinely, not just on special occasions.

      Thanks for stopping by.
      Gaye

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  10. tinakohrman says

    Pretty Living PDX sent me and i am so glad that she did. I really enjoyed this post. It seems since I have been with my fiancee for 14 years that our relationship is not as strong as it was before so reading this post has made me think about ways to show him that I still love and adore him. Thanks so much for this.

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  13. Michele says

    NIce post. It’s easy to take a marriage for granted. Men need to feel loved too:) Happy Valentine’s Day:)http://www.sewsweetvintage.com/2013/02/lombard-gable.html

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    • GC says

      Thanks Michele. I think it’s easy to take things for granted too, and assume that they should be doing all of the romantic stuff for us!

      Gaye

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  14. Adam's Eve says

    My husband and I are headed to his favorite pizza place tomorrow night, and then I plan to tell him how I’ve reserved a hotel suite for a weekend away in the mountains using my leftover Christmas money. I’m so excited because the room includes a Jacuzzi, a fireplace, a kitchen (for me to make his favorite meals without having to spend a fortune), and use of the indoor pool. Oh, and I have new lingerie for tomorrow night ;o)

    Wives still looking for ideas? Pick out something he loves, or plan an activity you both enjoy that will build your intimacy together. When does your husband most feel loved by you? If you don’t know, ask. You still have 1 day! Valentine’s doesn’t have to break the bank. Do something that will be memorable and sweet and unique for you. I also have all sorts of ideas available on my blog if you care to check it out.

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    • GC says

      Hi Hannah – What a great plan you’ve made! I know your husband will be thrilled. Have a great weekend!

      Ladies, I agree, there’s still time to make a Valentine’s plan that makes your husband feel loved. It doesn’t have to be expensive or complicated. Go for it!

      Gaye

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  15. jumoke says

    Pls. I have questions a to ask. Is valentine only meant for women alone to show love to their husbands and not for the husbands to show love to their wive?. secondly, this issue of marriage and love, why is it on women alone because from my own observations, it seems as if all these marriage counselling and even books direct advice or blame of marriage on women having forgotten that the 2 parties says “Yes I do” Pls I wants to hear from you.

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    • GC says

      Thanks for visiting and commenting. No, I definitely don’t think it’s all on women to show love. But, this is a blog for married women and the things we talk about are directed toward married women. So when I bring up an idea or information, that’s the focus. Other blogs, such as The Generous Husband and many others, are saying the same kinds of things to husbands. I do think, though, that if a marriage is struggling, one person (either the husband or the wife) can sometimes make a difference by showing love, even if his or her spouse doesn’t seem lovable at the time.

      Thanks again for stopping by.
      Gaye

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