This week I’ve written about quick tips for enjoying a calmer Christmas and a healthier Christmas season, and today I’ll share a few tips for enjoying a sexier Christmas season. My hope and prayer is that these three posts, combined with your own good ideas, will help you to feel calm, be healthy, and feel sexy during the busiest season of the year.
You probably don’t have the time or energy to launch an all-out “sexy assault” on your husband during this busy time of year. Instead, try a few small tactics to keep intimacy alive and let him know that you haven’t forgotten him.
- Send your husband 3 or 4 sexy texts during the day. Follow up with a little something that evening.
- Ask him to rub your feet with lotion.
- Give him a back or neck rub.
- Light a candle in the bedroom and play some romantic music.
- Wear some fun Christmas lingerie.
- Go to bed at the same time most nights.
- If you’re just too tired or stressed to enjoy sex, do something for him as a gift of love. Make sure he feels like it is a gift to him, not a burden to you.
- Exercise every day and eat well most of the time. Yes, I say this in almost every post (!), but the link between feeling healthy/keeping your weight under control and feeling sexy is just too strong not to repeat over and over.
- Read books and blogs that promote intimacy in marriage several times a week and try to learn and apply something new from each one. I’ve linked to several below to help get you started, and you can find more on the Sex and Marriage Resources page.
(For great Christmas ideas, check out our Pinterest Christmas group board for dozens of gifts, recipes and fun ideas. And if you’re looking for ways to save time on family meals during the busy holiday season, download a copy of our free ebook, The Busy Mom’s Guide to Healthy Family Meals.)
Good reading for a sexier Christmas season
J at Hot, Holy and Humorous interviews Shelia Wray Gregoire about “31 Days to Great Sex” – this interview doesn’t just promote the book; it also includes a lot of good information about sex and intimacy in marriage.
Lori at The Generous Wife writes about the importance of touching and enjoying your husband’s body.
As an advocate of sexting with your husband, I love this post by Adrienne at The Mommy Mess – I Sext My Husband – and Other Marriage Tips.
If you have a hard time understand all the fuss about sex and intimacy in marriage, or you know a woman who does, this article by Julie at Intimacy in Marriage – It’s Not Just About the Sex, Is It Guys? – provides some powerful insight into what sex means to husbands.
Do you have a tip for keeping things sexy during this busy time of year? I would love for you to share it in the Comments. Gaye
Bree @ Twinkle in the Eye says
Great advice once again and good links too. You have a way of telling me what I need to hear. Bluntly – which is refreshing!
GC says
Hi Bree – Thanks for your kind words. Hope that my words are not too blunt!
Gaye
Stefani says
I love this post! Thanks so much for the honest discussion about sex and marriage.
Newest follower! 🙂
GC says
Thanks so much, Stefani!
Gaye
Jamie "ChatterBlossom says
I forget about playing music and that seems so obvious! Thanks for the reminder!
Do Not Disturb says
Great tips. My husband and I have found it important to leave enough margin in our schedule during this busy season to connect. Finding and making space for sex, conversation and friendship may be difficult but it’s totally worth it. Thanks for sharing!
Megan
GC says
Hi Megan – I love the idea of thinking about in in terms of “leaving enough margin” for connection and intimacy with our husbands. I believe strongly in keeping fairly wide margins around my life, but it’s easy to forget that during the Christmas season.
Thanks for stopping by.
Gaye
Lori says
Robert and I just ran away for 2 days because we wanted to have a bit of private time during this season… I love your suggestions for messaging. Another blogger suggested an App called “Avacado” that’s free till the end of December as a tool to keep messages private between husband and wife – Rob and I downloaded it and are having a blast! 🙂
GC says
Hi Lori – Glad you were able to get away and have some fun together during this busy time of year! I have not heard about that app – will definitely check it out.
Thanks so much for stopping by.
Gaye
Becca says
Thanks for sharing your married woman wisdom! I enjoy trying to soak up what other Christian women have to say on marriage before I get married. 🙂
GC says
Hi Becca – I think you’re wise to absorb a lot of advice before you get married, but you have to choose which of it works for you. You will find a lot of different opinions and advice, even among Christian women. I guess I’m saying don’t try to fit yourself into someone else’s model of “a good Christian wife,” but choose what seems best to you based on your beliefs, personality and spouse.
Gaye
Raquel says
Great tips! I must admit, I usually get soooo busy at this time of the year that feeling ‘sexy’ is a distant memory. Thanks for the links, I’ll go check them out!
GC says
Yes, me too. That’s why I had to come up with these reminders!
Gaye
Andrew says
What a great blog! I love your very positive message, and I hope that many marriages are blessed by it!
GC says
Thanks very much, Andrew!
Gaye