Why You Need a Lingerie Experiment
If you’re a busy, on-the-go woman (and I’m pretty sure you are!), you probably know how easy it is to lose track of your libido, forget about your sensual side, and totally deplete all of your sexual energy. It’s as if one day you embraced and enjoyed your sensuality, and the next day you couldn’t even remember if you ever experienced it! So frustrating!
One of the primary reasons you lose track of the sensual woman inside of you is that everyday life just pushes her to the side. And once she’s off to the side, you start to ignore her. And pretty soon, you forget she’s even there. Because she’s usually not loud or brash or pushy. Instead, she’s just sitting over there, waiting for you to notice her and give her some attention. (But if the sensual woman inside of you happens to be loud or brash or pushy, that’s completely normal too. And I’m jealous of you.)
So, if you’ve lost track of your sensual woman, is there anything you can do? Or is she going to be MIA for the rest of your life? Fortunately, the answers are “yes, you can” and “no, she isn’t.” You can find her and embrace her and build her up. We’ve talked in the past about some ways to do that. Things like reining in your family’s schedule (so it doesn’t run you ragged), making time for exercise, getting enough sleep, learning to say no, and simply prioritizing sensuality and intimacy in your life and marriage.
But today I want to suggest another idea, something very simple that could make a difference in the way you and I feel about ourselves as sensual women – a 7-Day Lingerie Experiment. I’m getting ready to try it, and I’m inviting you to try it with me. (This post contains Amazon affiliate links.)
The premise is simple – if you wear lingerie that makes you feel sensual and sexy, you’ll begin to think of yourself as a sensual woman. And if you wear frumpy old underwear all the time, you’ll tend to think of yourself as a bit frumpy. Because I don’t know about you, but my typical day-to-day “lingerie” is neither sensual or sexy. It’s functional, but that’s about it. And the sensual woman inside of me really isn’t all that crazy about it.
So I’m encouraging both of us to try this – beginning one day this week and continuing for 7 days, wear lingerie that makes you feel great. Not lingerie that’s supposed to be “hot,” but in reality feels like an instrument of torture. Not lingerie that only a size 2 model could love. Not even lingerie that your husband likes. Wear lingerie that you like, that makes you feel good and sensual and maybe even a little bit sexy. It could be a fun camisole, a pretty pair of panties or something a little sexier but still comfortable. of Wear it all day, even if you’re going to work or homeschooling your kids or chasing toddlers. Wear it for you, and let it encourage you to embrace your power as a sensual woman – every day for 7 days.
Now, you may be thinking, “I don’t have any lingerie that makes me feel that way.” But you might and just don’t realize it. Because if you’re like me, the sensual stuff gets pushed to the back of the drawer, while the ho-hum stuff hangs out in the front. So dig around and see what you can find. And if you don’t have enough, consider heading to Target or any discount store near you in the next day or two. Because lingerie that feels good doesn’t have to break your budget.
Listen, I know that this is a very simple proposition. And I know it’s not a panacea for finding your sensual woman if she’s seriously missing in action. But it can be a start. At the very least it sends your mind a message that says, “Hey, this is important to me. I’m trying to get things going. How about if you cooperate?”
What do you think? Are you interested in giving the 7-Day Lingerie Experiment a try? If you’re planning to give it a try, let me know in the Comments. I would love to hear from you.
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(Please note that this post is intended for women in generally healthy marriages and healthy situations, who just need a little encouragement to boost their sensuality and sexual energy. If you’re dealing with difficult personal or health issues or an unhealthy marriage, I know that this post won’t be helpful for you. If you find yourself in one of those situations, please talk with a doctor or professional counselor and get the help you need.)
Jen T says
What a fabulous idea! I’m in!!
GC says
Hi Jen – Thanks! I need to get back on track with this. It’s so easy to fall back into wearing the same old dumpy stuff! I’m going to get organized for it this weekend.
Gaye
Heather Walker says
Going to start this tomorrow. I am going to add sleeping in something sexier than a t-shirt and fleece pants, maybe a short gown with nothing else.
GC says
Hi Heather – Yes, improving sleepwear is a great idea too! Mine is usually pretty pathetic. I have done this challenge in the past but have gotten off track. I’m going to get organized this weekend and start again.
Gaye
nicole @ life after heels says
What a great idea. It reminds me of the old saying dress for the job you want. LOL
GC says
Ha ha – that’s a good way of looking at it!
Thanks for stopping by, Nicole.
Gaye
Deborah Smikle-Davis says
I agree with your premise that if you wear lingerie that makes you feel sensual and sexy, you’ll begin to think of yourself as a sensual woman. I have been wearing an old black comfortable, but not very attractive, nightgown for months and my husband finally offered me money to go shopping at Victoria’s Secret for a new, more attractive gown or two. I wrote a post this week about this experience, in fact. Thanks for challenging us to push ourselves out of our comfort zones — or in my case — old comfy gowns! Good luck with your challenge!
GC says
Hi Deborah – Yes, I should have included sleepwear in this experiment. Some of mine is appalling! And winter weather dampens my enthusiasm for sensual sleepwear.
Gaye
Angela @ Setting My Intention says
What a great idea Gaye! I don’t think I’ve bought lingerie since my honeymoon! Did I declutter those?… 🙂
Lisa says
I am so glad you posted this!! I’m in on this!!! Bringing our sexy back!
GC says
Thank you, Lisa. I am all for bringing our sexy back!
Gaye
Cassi Schmigotzki (@LAWRTW) says
I’ve never had sensual lingerie; I’ve always gone for practical. I wouldn’t know what would feel sensual/sexy. :/
GC says
Hi Cassi – You might need to try a little experiment! And sensual is different for every woman. It definitely doesn’t have to look like something from Victoria’s Secret! I have found some fun, really soft camisoles and panties at Wal-Mart.
Gaye
Anonymous says
It’s a great experiment I’m sure once you will start this, you’ll never stop. I do this several years now and I can’t get dressed without a matching set of good/sexy lingerie on me. And you will always be confident if he takes your clothes off!
GC says
It’s great that you’ve gotten into the habit. I hope to get into it starting this weekend. Thanks so much for stopping by.
Gaye
cunina2014 says
This is so true! For about 2 months I have been wearing matching lingerie! It has made a huge difference in how I feel about being me!
GC says
Thanks for the encouragement! I am getting ready to start on Sunday.
Gaye
Kathy says
What a great idea! I’m going to start today. I think it’s just what I need to get out of my frumpy slump. Pulled a cami set out from the back of the drawer and already feeling it!❤️
GC says
Wonderful, Kathy! I hope it helps. I’m getting ready to start too.
Gaye