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6 Ways to Add Some Excitement to Your Marriage

October 13, 20154 Comments

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6 Ways to Spice Up Your Marriage - Add some fun and excitement to your married life! Marriage tips | Marriage advice | Fun and sexy marriageIf you’ve been married more than a few years, you probably wouldn’t describe your marriage or sex life as “spicy.” Even if you started out in the “Scotch Bonnet pepper” range on the spicy scale, you’ve probably ended up in the “salt and pepper with a dash of Tabasco” range. But you don’t have to stay there. Couples can and do add fun, excitement and heat to their marriages. If you’re ready to do the same, here are 6 things you and your spouse can do to spice up your marriage:

  • Prioritize time for the two of you. It’s hard to create or maintain a hot marriage when you’re too busy to connect with your husband. But that’s exactly where most married couples, especially those with children, find themselves. Both spouses are running all day, every day – to work, to school, to soccer practice, to meetings. When they collapse into bed at the end of the day, spicy sex no longer seems like a priority. So plan time every week just to connect with your spouse and make an effort to spice up your marriage. Find the time by simplifying other areas of your life or saying “no” to activities that just aren’t as important as spending time together.
  • Talk about it. Honestly, this one is hard. It may actually be easier to just go for it and try something new than to actually talk about your sex life. I’m terrible at this, and my poor communication has caused problems in my marriage more than once. So don’t be like me. Instead, open up the conversation. Tell your husband that you value your relationship and sex life and want to spice up your marriage. Then listen to what he has to say and talk about it. And don’t assume that it’s “one and done” – come back to the conversation and continue it regularly.
  • Schedule sex. Yeah, I know. Scheduling sex doesn’t seem very spicy. As a matter of fact, it seems downright boring. But you know what’s even more boring – not having sex because you didn’t schedule it and then life came along and consumed all of your time and energy! The reality is, in order to spice up your marriage, you need to be having sex. Regularly. So talk with your husband and figure out ways to get it on your calendar. Regularly.
  • Change something. Most couples fall into the habit of doing the same thing at the same time in the same place. So mix things up a bit. Every third time you have sex, change one thing – the location, the time, the attire, the position. And most of the time keep it simple – “change the location” doesn’t have to mean “go to a hotel” (although it can!). It can mean “have sex on the floor or in the dining room!”
  • Add something. One of the easiest ways to spice up your sex life is to add something new. If you’re like me, you’ve gotten pretty comfortable with your regular repertoire. Which is fine, except when it becomes the same old same old. So once or twice a month, add something new – a game, music, a toy, a position. Agree with your spouse on what you’re going to try ahead of time, and don’t insist on something that makes him or her uncomfortable.
  • Step out of your comfort zone. Although you should never insist that your spouse move out of his or her comfort zone, it’s perfectly fine (and a good idea!) to encourage yourself to step out of yours. Sex in the comfort zone is great – it probably makes up 95% of sex in most marriages. But if you’re looking for more energy and excitement in your sex life, you probably won’t find it there. So every once in a while, push your boundaries a bit and try something you haven’t been willing to try in the past – maybe something your spouse has mentioned or something you’ve often thought might be fun. Start small and see how it goes. It may be great or it may be a total flop, but it will give you and your spouse something to talk about and create a launching point for trying something else new and different.

(Want more ideas? Check out our Sex and Marriage Resources page.)

Whether you’ve been married 5 years or 35 years or more, you can enjoy a fun, hot and spicy marriage. My husband and I have been married for 30 years, and our marriage is spicier now than it’s ever been (albeit still a work in progress!) If your marriage has cooled off and you’d like to heat it up, take steps to get the ball rolling. Although you’ll need your spouse’s help in order to make significant changes, you can take the initiative to start moving things in a hotter direction.

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  1. Jane says

    October 21, 2015 at 4:15 pm

    when you talk freely about sex with your spouse,it doesn’t just spice up your sexual life,it also brings about emotional communication which can help keep your marriage and sexual life blossoming. I enjoyed your article…..its wonderful .

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    • GC says

      October 24, 2015 at 8:52 am

      Thanks so much, Jane. You are right about how talking increases emotional connection. Maybe that’s why we’re often so afraid to do it?!

      Gaye

      Reply
  2. Lisa (@retrohousewife5) says

    October 14, 2015 at 10:33 pm

    I love that you included talking about sex. Just like every part of marriage communication is so important.

    Reply
    • GC says

      October 20, 2015 at 9:11 am

      Thanks Lisa. I agree – it’s important (and hard!).

      Gaye

      Reply

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