Friends, we are not the same women, wives or mothers we were last week. We knew then, but now know with terrible certainty, that life is unpredictable. That we cannot control every outcome. That our time with the ones we love is finite. So, in this final week before Christmas, let’s all let go of the things that do not matter, the things that block our faith, hope and love. And let’s hold on to the things that do matter, the things that give our lives meaning, peace and joy.
Let’s decide to let go of:
- Fear – We can’t control everything, and that is scary. I’m going to prepare for the things I can control, and try to leave the rest to God. (I fail at this repeatedly, but am going to keep trying.)
- Unrealistic expectations – Perfect gifts, perfect food, perfect holiday, perfect children, perfect husband – they don’t exist. Let them go.
- Control – Related to unrealistic expectations, we often feel the need to control everything. We can’t, we shouldn’t, and we need to stop trying. Attempts to control sap our energy and joy and say to other people, “I don’t trust you to do it right.”
- Petty angers, annoyances and jealousies – In this season of giving, let’s give others the gift of grace and forgiveness for the small ways they’ve hurt or annoyed us.
Let’s determine to hold onto:
- Faith – My faith was jarred by the tragic events in Newtown. When a friend asked on Facebook, “Where was “God” on Friday?” I didn’t have a good answer. The answers I could muster would sound glib or “religious” to a non-Christian, so I said nothing. But I’m choosing to hold onto my faith, to my belief that God is good and ultimately in control, and I hope that you will too.
- People – You know this as well as I do, but sometimes we forget – all of the good things in our lives begin and end with the people in our lives. Everything else – things, schedules, events, places, traditions – pales in comparison to the value of the people around us. Let’s hold on to them and let them know that they mean everything to us.
- Joy in the small things -Let’s decide to enjoy the simplest things – cooking dinner, listening to Christmas music, sitting around the tree, baking messy cookies and wrapping messy presents with our kids, walking outside, enjoying intimacy with our husbands.
Joy and blessings, Gaye
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